Dating

Craigslist and its Funny Takes on The Dating Scene

There were three funny and interesting takes on the dating scene I read recently- they are all worth a read and all offer some valuable insight and interesting takes on dating.

The first 2 are about the hotly contested battle about whether you should be a nice guy or not (my take, nice but not a whiny spineless little prat).

The guy's side of the argument looks something like this:

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.


While the girl's side of the argument sounds something like this:

What's wrong with Nice Guys? The biggest problem is that most Nice Guys (tm) are hideously insecure. They are so anxious to be liked and loved that they do things for other people to gain acceptance and attention, rather than for the simply pleasure of giving. You never know if a Nice Guy really likes you for who you are, or if he has glommed onto you out of desperation because you actually paid some kind of attention to him.


I'm gonna have to give this round to the girl, mostly because she sounds like she has more balls than the guy does. And frankly Mr Nice Guy makes me want to kick sand in his face. I dunno, just something about him.

But to even the playing field I'm gonna tack on this funny commentary on what it's like to date most girls (at least in the US). It's called "It's me! Every Girl Ever", and it sure brought back some memories. Not good, not bad, just sorta memories.


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